Tech abuse happens when someone uses technology to harm or control you.

Tech abuse is real. Abusers may use technology to control, harass or intimidate you. They may carry out physical, sexual, psychological, or economic abuse using technology.

An abuser may hack your phone, stalk you online or use your technology to monitor what you are doing, use social media, cameras, or other kinds of technology to try to harm or control you or your children.

Here are some of the common signs of tech abuse:

  • Is someone stalking you online or watching everything you do?
  • Is someone harassing you by sending constant messages that upset you?
  • Is someone posting about you online or threatening to share images?
  • Do you feel pressured to share your messages or phone?
  • Is someone controlling or limiting use of your phone? Has someone hacked your phone?
  • Does someone have access to your online accounts and passwords?
  • Is someone trying to get to you through your children’s phone or games?
  • Are you being cyberstalked?

If you, or anybody else you know may be going through this, please reach out to Refuge by calling their helpline on 0808 2000 247, visit or

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